When we think of ourselves and our children, there are powerful instincts to gather resources and to provide vitality and direction in body and mind. So we stay active, opportunistic, and find the best programs for education in order to succeed. Why are we not as dedicated to the care of our souls? Pressures from schedules, ambitions, and the need to appear “with it” relegate the cultivation of one’s soul to the minor leagues of life’s priorities. The soul, like our brains and body, deserves resources to become an ally and partner in the strength of our ability to meet challenges, garner decisions, and make a contribution to those institutions and people we affect.

Many trainers and consultants maintain that the soul belongs exclusively to home or church. But why exclude such a resource from development and access in everything we do? What if I told you there is a veritable San Andreas Fault line in the American psyche that overrates our power to control and underrates the power of our souls? On the one hand we all build strength, intelligence and alliances to be able to control events and their consequences while ignoring our soul’s wish to provide its power through sheer experiences, irrespective of the cards life deals us. We live the triumphant but who can avoid the tragic? We love to be successful but who can escape failure? We exert great energy to corner and control life while doing little to enhance our souls—which is precisely the accomplice in life that sustains and enriches us, come what may.

So my advice: tend to your soul. It is your royal responsibility.